Hi Candidate,
Think of the difference between all these types of learning:
- Buying a book
- Watching a video
- Buying an e-book
- Buying an online course
- Joining a group program
- Attending an in-person conference
- Hiring a 1-1 coach
Can you spot the differences? There's cost, time, personalization...what else do you notice?
Most people who want to learn something new stay in the realm of the first two. It's safe to watch a YouTube video or buy a $10 book — and often, you can get 85% of the results from a great book!
But you would never play the same note over and over. And most of us don't eat the same food every single day. So why do we learn the same way over and over?
I think of these different options as different "notes" you can play. Sometimes, I want to watch a video to get inspired before giving a talk. But when it comes to my business or fitness, I've gone all the way to hiring a 1-1 trainer/coach.
And sometimes, you just want help. You don't want to have to read 10 different books and figure out what's true, what's false, and what applies to you.
This is where classes and tutors and coaches come in.
Sometimes, it's out of pure curiosity. I remember taking a class at Columbia a few years ago to learn about financial accounting. Sure, I could have read 5 different books and tried it on my own...but I wanted to understand it faster and better than doing it on my own.
Other times, there's a real need. Take a person who can't seem to land the jobs they want. They decide to get help. They hire a career consultant or join our Dream Job program. (Compare this to the person who gets stuck, and instead of asking for help, just doubles down and sends out 100 more resumes. Doing more of what's NOT working...is a surefire way to keep NOT succeeding!)
I love the approach of recognizing where you need help, or just want to learn more, and asking for help.
I could have learned 80% of what I learned about fitness on my own by watching YouTube videos, reading books, and trying workouts. But I wanted results fast and I didn't want to have to think — I just wanted someone else who lives and breathes fitness to teach me about training. And it worked! It was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Sometimes, you just want help. I'm sharing this because I'm a pretty disciplined guy, and I still use a trainer years later. It's not always about facts.
I want you to reframe how you think about getting help.
First, there are LOTS of options, not just books or YouTube videos. You can pick and choose different options based on how important something is to you.
And second, ask for help! It's normal. The more successful someone is, the MORE they ask for help.
Looking back, what's something where you could have asked for help earlier?