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Today, I want to give you 3 rules.
These rules have changed the way I approached my life.
RULE #1: Do the hard things in life early
Think about trying to learn a new language now vs. when you were 5 years old. Or trying to start exercising at 50 vs. 25. IT SUCKS!
That's why putting in the hard work now makes life so much easier. Even if you feel like you're getting a late start, it's better than waiting and getting a later start.
We all nod and agree — but what was one thing you did today that will make your future self's life 10x better?
The blunt truth is, you and I are both getting older. It's just a question of what our life is going to look like 10 years from now. Are we doing things that will ever pay off? Or are we just doing what's easy and convenient?
RULE #2: Life is not a Disney movie.
Nobody's coming to rescue you
When I once spoke at an all-girls private high school, they shared this phrase: "A man is not a financial plan." I laughed, but it's actually a great lesson — and true for all of us, men and women. When I finally realized that nobody was going to magically come down from the sky to give me the secret code to get my Dream Job at Google, make me more fit, or grow my business, THAT'S when I realized something I'd never internalized: Oh shit. Nobody's coming. It's all up to me.
At first, it was scary. Then it became comforting, because with each small win, I got more confident and knew I could do more and more.
RULE #3: Get help
Don't try to do it alone.
I spent so many stupid hours trying to do things on my own out of pure pride. "Oh, I shouldn't ask him for help … I should do it on my own … I don't want to bother him..."
The truth is, YES — you should do your basic homework on your own.
But if I had just borrowed a book from the library, or asked someone for help, I could have saved years of time and mistakes. Now I do that by taking classes, tutors, even just taking people out to coffee for advice. I learned that people WANT to help you. And there's no reason to reinvent the wheel when you can learn from others, then apply your special skills to create a uniquely Rich Life for yourself.
Brutally honest questions to ask yourself: When was the last time you invested in yourself? Asked for help? Hired a tutor? If the answer is never, think about all the things you're trying to do on your own. Don't let your barriers get in the way of your success.
Do you see the pattern here?
I love thinking about people reading these rules. I can see hundreds of thousands of people nodding, "That's clever, Ramit, haha. Good rules." Then they click to the next email and never think about these again.
A very small number of readers actually stop and say, "Wait a second. Am I actually doing these? What could I do that would give my future self a 10x life?"
Do you see the pattern here?
In life, there are people who nod pleasantly and do nothing differently, settling for mediocrity. Then there are people who make bold, unconventional choices and reap the rewards.
A lot of times, you can see the people who settle just by looking at their faces. They're the people who trudge to work, say things like "it's just a job," and complain to their friends … but in the end, they do nothing to change it.
The people who make unconventional choices realize that the world wants them to be vanilla, but they have no intention of listening. They're willing to do things differently, make unpopular choices, even fail a couple times as they learn, because they know that to live a Rich life, they have to DO things that others will not.
The difference is stark. The first group, the people who settle, are petrified of RISK. They're afraid of failing, of trying something and ending up with egg on their face ("If I try that and fail, that's just one more thing I've failed at … and that means I might actually just be terrible at this whole thing").
You see this reluctance in the weirdest places:
Then you see the people who make different choices. They have a totally radical way of looking at their life's choices. These people think, what if I DON'T?
They know that if they focus on just a few BIG WINS, they can radically improve the quality of their lives. The money. The freedom. The FUN.
You want that? To be able to buy something without worrying about the cost? To be able to have the freedom to try new things at work, and know your boss will always back you up? And to be paid handsomely because you're doing work that nobody else can do?
One of the biggest wins you can ever get is a Dream Job.
Think about it: How often do you see someone who has a successful life but HORRIBLE job? NEVER!
Most people laugh about how bad their jobs are, complain to their friends and spouses every night, curse their alarm clocks every morning … but never do a thing about it!
We spend 8+ hours a day on our jobs … but we treat it like it's happening to us, instead of us controlling our careers!
You know what our mind tells us when we think about finding a better job? "I don't have time." "I don't know what my Dream Job is." Or, the worst of all: "I'll do it later."
LATER? You want to put off finding your life's work — the thing you spend most of your life doing — until some unknown day in the future? You're basically saying, "LOL, I'll just put a big fat pin in that … haha" (clown cries).
There is a better way.
There's a step-by-step system you can use to find your Dream Job and add an amazing Big Win to your life. You can't learn it from most career experts, because most of them haven't gotten a top-tier job EVER. Why do they spend so much time talking about changing the fonts on your resume? Answer: It's all they know!
But you can learn it from the Find Your Dream Job program — which thousands of people have used with tremendous results. In fact, you can use this program to find out what your Dream Job is — and then exactly how to apply, nail the interview, and even negotiate thousands of dollars more.
All with 50+ hours of detailed videos, word-for-word scripts, and even mock negotiations and interviews.
Here's how the Find Your Dream Job program works:
- The course is online and includes 8 weeks of material — including 50+ hours of video. Take it at your own pace, and get LIFETIME ACCESS to the material.
- Each week, you'll receive a new video module from me walking you through each step of the Find Your Dream Job program. In each video, I break down the mental barriers, show you the new strategy to use, and provide specific tactics on how to go forward this week. This means specific, word-for-word scripts and examples of what to avoid.
- Each week you'll also receive access to the Dream Job private vault. These are hundreds of pages of case studies, scripts, bonus material, and field reports from successful Find Your Dream Job students.
- The course already includes extensive Q&A from previous students to me. If you have a question about switching industries … or negotiating a raise … or how to quit without burning bridges … it's been asked and answered — right in the course for you.
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And the Find Your Dream Job also includes:
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If you're still unsure, see for yourself with actual videos of real Find Your Dream Job graduates.
And if you're ready to take the leap — to stop living for a "someday" dream and to take action TODAY — Find Your Dream Job is open until TONIGHT at 11:59pm Pacific.
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