| | | Hi Candidate,
Look at this comment I found on Reddit about a guy who's deep in his own head, always second-guessing himself. | | | | | | | | DUDE. Imagine going around all day, second-guessing yourself, and agonizing over all the things you did or might do wrong. This is deep, like Mariana Trench–level deep, in his own head.
The #1 Rule of Internet Comments is to recommend seeing a therapist (and in fact, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one great strategy that psychologists use).
But short of that, what can you do today to get out of your own head?
I'd like to share a philosophy that's helped change my perspective on tough challenges:
Instead of focusing on reducing the bad,
I like to increase the good.
It's like someone who wants to lose weight. The usual advice says "Don't eat that, or that, or that." (Notice how negative it is. Plus people hate to be told to stop doing something.)
My approach? "Forget about what not to eat. Start by eating THIS, and THIS, and THIS."
Don't reduce the bad. Increase the good.
I did the same with money. Notice that a lot of experts tell you to cut back. I encourage you to spend on lattes and even awesome luxury vacations (and if you want to know how to earn more to pay for it, I'll show you how).
Don't just decrease the bad. Increase the good.
This simple flip — of focusing on doing more of the positive, instead of reducing the negative — can completely change your life.
It lets you get out of your head because you can stop worrying about all the things you might have done "wrong" … and direct your energy to the awesome, fun, amazing things you WANT to do.
This is why I talk about Mental Mastery. About building up an amazing set of mental skills you can use to be mentally strong, to be resilient, and to have fun doing it.
If you're ever stuck in your head, I'd like you to watch this video to see a specific example of how to get out — and switch your focus to Mental Mastery.
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-Ramit | | | | | | |
